tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post8583675358542678688..comments2023-07-31T07:49:27.605-04:00Comments on BeingTriedAsGold: My Somewhat of a SecretDave ~ Brendahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06969488242088890863noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post-32871349309661864132013-01-17T08:57:42.583-05:002013-01-17T08:57:42.583-05:00thank you, Anonymous 1 & 2 for your comments. ...thank you, Anonymous 1 & 2 for your comments. I believe that sometimes our guilt comes from others expectations of us and our own expectations of ourselves. I can truly say that the guilt of having the tb was partly, but not all, from the opinions of others. I also had to go through a mourning season of "no more babies." However, the guilt that I felt from breaking the deal with the Lord was neither. It was between Him & I. That is where I needed to be set free. He, for sure, is much more merciful to us that we are to ourselves. Blessings!<br /> Dave ~ Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06969488242088890863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post-37937129136954619262013-01-11T08:11:02.406-05:002013-01-11T08:11:02.406-05:00wow, Brenda. So glad you shared your heart. When G...wow, Brenda. So glad you shared your heart. When God made use he gave us the ability to make a choose. And as much as we want God to show us everything. I am all for that. BUt sometimes he wants us to use what he gave us, our minds. I do believe you made a wise decision. And I am so happy to hear you left it go and are leaving it in God's hands. He loves you more then you will ever know. (we all need that reminder) We are blessed with 3 wonderful children. We most likly could have had more. But i dont believe God intended for us as women to live a life of making babies and all the stress. It all has a part. But how can we be a proper help meet to our spouse when we are tired, stressed, grouchy, etc. Some may be able to handle it more then others. My hats off to anyone with children. It is a big responsablity no matter how many you have. I count it a joy for each one God blessed me with. In years gone by, i do believe raising children was much better. No days i'm scared for any child being born. That is my opinion, and again i dont believe anyone is right or wrong here. God has given us the ability to choose. Many blessings to you my dear. God does forgive and i'm so glad you found rest in him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post-39159559890826720572013-01-10T11:25:07.493-05:002013-01-10T11:25:07.493-05:00I, too, have had a tubal ligation at the urging of...I, too, have had a tubal ligation at the urging of my doctors because of my medical issues and having had a baby with birth defects requiring heart surgery at 8 months and ongoing medical care and surgeries. We had also talked it over with a Christian medical doctor who cried with us as we discussed the issues. We had peace about the decision we finally made, but well-meaning people thought they could "fix" our "problem" by suggesting reversal, foster-parenting or adoption. While we were open to that, we never felt God leading us in those directions I have chosen NOT to be offended when people still ask "Do you ONLY have 2 children?" YES< I do, and they are a blessing from my Heavenly Father who has kept me healthy enough to enjoy them!! I want to bring honor, glory and praise to HIM with what He has given me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post-51811883555024190592013-01-10T08:23:36.450-05:002013-01-10T08:23:36.450-05:00thank you, dear friends, for your encouraging rema...thank you, dear friends, for your encouraging remarks. I can finally truly say that I am FREE from those guilty feelings. Even though they weren't feelings that were there constantly, whenever I visited those memories, then came the doubts and guilt. No more! :) We honestly did what we thought was the best thing for us and our family at that time. Why is it easier to forgive others then to forgive ourselves?<br />Blessings!<br />Dave ~ Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06969488242088890863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post-51407417202421982332013-01-09T19:07:11.988-05:002013-01-09T19:07:11.988-05:00Hi Brenda,
What an honest, genuine post this was f...Hi Brenda,<br />What an honest, genuine post this was for you to write. <br /><br />When we were new Christians, my husband and I made the decision to have only two children, and we made it prayerfully and carefully.<br /><br />Some years later, we felt we hadn't heard the Lord accurately, so we prayed some more and went through a successful reversal. But we were never able to have any more children. <br /><br />Sometimes we do the best we can with our limited knowledge and still don't know if we did the right thing.<br /><br />If God is convicting you of rebellion against His known will, then I wouldn't want to interfere. <br /><br />But if you did the best you could with the knowledge you had, even if you don't know for sure it was the right decision, I hope you will release yourself for that guilt, dear friend.<br /><br />Bless you,<br />GailGail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post-82047176132368110382013-01-09T10:01:29.920-05:002013-01-09T10:01:29.920-05:00Ah, Brenda! I am so glad to hear of your release!...Ah, Brenda! I am so glad to hear of your release! I want to reaffirm to you that you are EVER so loved by your Father! EVER so cherished! EVER so delighted in. And I know that He is not, nor ever was upset by your decision to have a t.l. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your journey of walking into the forgiveness and love of the Lord. <br /><br />Love you!<br />(and, if it matters any, we too have walked through the same decision as you, only we have four children, not six. And, rather than a t.l. my DH is a gelding. :-) You were definitely influential in MY healing regarding having all c-sections. Thank you!)<br />Licia Augustahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10878576908220990582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5905879031790835728.post-29177922053357240322013-01-09T07:29:35.328-05:002013-01-09T07:29:35.328-05:00I'm sorry it's taken you so long to forgiv...I'm sorry it's taken you so long to forgive yourself! I put myself in your shoes and I can certainly see how you felt guilt over it!<br /> I feel judged by many people who don't know why we only have 2 children. I hear "Isn't it soon time for another one?" a lot....or I did! It doesn't happen as often anymore.<br /> Thanks for the reminder to not be so judgmental of other's decisions and to be willing to "walk a mile in their shoes"!!<br /> ((HUGS))Twila Henryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17234563667712794000noreply@blogger.com